There are so many questions when it comes to planning a family, and one of the most common is, “when do I start preparing for baby?” It can be so tempting to start painting a bedroom, picking out furniture, planning a shower, and buying baby clothes, but there’s a right time to do all of this.
Unfortunately, for men and women who experience infertility, the answer to this question is a little more vague. Those who have no fertility issues may choose to prep a room and buy the baby monitor as soon as they start trying. This may not be the right path for you if you’re over the age of 40, have been trying to conceive for six months to a year unsuccessfully, or if you’ve experienced more than one miscarriage.
Preparing Too Early: It’s so exciting to get started and make that special space for your baby. This is when things start to get real; you can picture baby eating in that highchair, imagine yourself rocking baby to sleep in a new rocker, and hope that baby’s favorite color will be the exact shade of mint green you chose for his or her room. But, this realness you create will make it that much more devastating if you fail to conceive.
Not only are you left with a room and furniture dedicated to the hope of your future bundle of joy, but you’ve created a real baby in your mind where one hasn’t developed yet. This can make it feel like you’re losing a child, rather than being unable to conceive one.
Preparing in the First Trimester: Maybe you’ve already gotten the good news: You saw that beautiful little plus sign and had your doctor confirm. Congratulations, you’re pregnant! For most women this will mean experiencing the joys of morning sickness, heartburn, and first kicks. But, not all women carry to term, and it’s important to recognize how fragile that first trimester is. Of course, be excited, celebrate, and stay positive and relaxed throughout those first three months, but it might be a good idea to hold off on child proofing the house until you’ve sailed into the safe zone.
Preparing in the Third Trimester: Ideally, this is the best time to get your home ready for your newest member. When you’ve conceived successfully, carried your baby through that first tumultuous trimester, made it through your second trimester, and are in the home stretch. The chances that you will deliver a healthy happy baby have significantly increased, and you can almost feel him or her in your arms already.
Now is a great time to get started on any projects that need to be done: painting, renovating and placing furniture to create a space for your baby. Just be sure that mama doesn’t spend time around paint fumes or lifting heavy objects. Hire professionals to help, or, have your partner, friends, and family lend a hand for those more difficult jobs.
Really, there’s no right or wrong time to start preparing for your baby. Some men and women begin before they’ve even found a partner they want to share a family with. Others still aren’t completely ready by the time they go into labor. It’s a different experience for everybody, and this guide is only meant to offer suggestions on when it might be most beneficial to begin preparing a space.
If you want to know more about the optimal times to childproof, set up baby’s room, paint, and furnish, speak to your doctor. He or she knows your medical history and can speak to your personal journey more effectively.